A guy falling in love with a female friend is more than just a rom-com cliché. It happens in real life, too. And when it does, things sometimes go tricky. In this special face-off, RK Bagatsing and Jane Oineza together with host Robi Domingo answered old-age questions about drawing the line between friendship and romance.
Let’s get straight to the point. Can a man and a woman be “just friends”? For RK, the answer is ‘yes’ and it’s all about setting a clear intention. It’s possible especially if you aren’t looking for a romantic relationship.
In times when romantic feelings start to show up, Jane stressed that it will go back to having a firm direction of where you think things are headed to. “Nasa sa’yo naman ‘yan, eh kung hahayaan mong pumorma siya sa’yo. Nasa self-control mo ‘yan,” said Jane, who claimed that she doesn’t have a suitor at the moment.
When it comes to her ideal guy, Jane finds an engaging personality more attractive. “He can carry a conversation, walang awkward na silence. Basta kaya mo akong patawanin. Parang ‘yun ang mas una kong napapansin,” she explained. On the physical appearance, Jane said she prefers someone ‘moreno’ and with a bad boy look.
Meanwhile, a girl with a sweet smile easily catches RK’s attention. He also likes a good conversationalist. Long, smooth-flowing and effortless talks always win him.
On being friends with exes, the duo had different viewpoints. Jane would admit that she no longer communicates with her past boyfriends, especially when the breakup was a mutual decision. RK doesn’t close his doors as long as both parties have already moved on.
On risking friendship for love, Jane thinks there’s no harm in trying. “Hindi mo malalaman ang kalalabasan kung hindi mo susubukan,” she said. RK backed this up with, “Kung nakalatag na lahat ng risk pero longing ka pa rin doon sa tao, that’s the time na you dive in deep.”
RK mentioned that their chemistry is rooted in genuine friendship. “I see Jane as someone I can trust, care about, and I’m so happy to be with her every single project that we do,” he expressed.
Jane admitted that she’s comfortable with her onscreen partner. And she knows she can run to him in times of tough decision-making and sad moments, knowing he’d be honest.
The RKane tandem was born in 2018 via Precious Hearts Romances Presents Araw-Gabi. Although they only had a few scenes together, fans were intensely drawn to their chemistry. They soon landed their lead projects.
On the possibility of a real-life romance, RK had this to say: “Sa dami na naming pinagsamahan, napakagaan na ng pakiramdam ko sa kanya, siya din ganun sa akin. So, bakit hindi, ‘di ba? Ang goal naman natin in a relationship is to find someone you can confide with, someone you can share your deepest secrets.”
Jane said they’d run out of time listing down their best qualities when asked what they like about each other. Instead, she’d tell him, “Gusto kita dahil ikaw ay ikaw.”
According to the guest psychologist, Jhon Carandang, people tend to fall in love with a stranger than a close friend. “Kasi kadalasan wala tayong alam sa stranger na ‘yun… Minsan, hindi pala love ang nade-develop kundi friendship. Kasi nagki-click ang kanilang perspective, needs, and wants, even the love language pareho. So, hindi nila nakikita na baka pwedeng mag-friends,” he said.
It’s possible to turn love into friendship and constant bonding times would play a major role. But love is not limited to romantic relationships alone.
“May tinatawag na law of proximity, ‘yung lagi nang magkasama, laging nagtatawagan, laging nagkikita. So, madalas nagkakaroon sila ng love in a sense that it can be platonic, ‘yung walang malisya. Pwede naman din namang filial love na parang brothers at sisters lang ang dating. Pwede rin namang romantic love na talagang to the point na they’re willing commit themselves until they get married,” he further explained.
Play this video for the full interview and watch RKane exchange ‘kilig banats!’