Three months after the season finale episode of her online talk program Ask Angelica, Angelica Panganiban recently went back for a special episode, wherein she once again gave her sincere and wise personal advices on the love, friendship, and money problems of her letter senders.
The first letter sender was Mico, an overseas Filipino worker currently based in Qatar who expressed his sentiments regarding his super clingy and paranoid girlfriend to whom he’s currently in a long-distance relationship with. For the “Love Or Money” star, being paranoid about the whereabouts and activities of your partner, especially if the two of you are living far away from each other, is really inevitable. It’s necessary for them to talk about it, particularly him so that his partner will know that what she’s been doing is not already fine with him.
“Nasa sa inyo lang din kung paano n’yo kakausapin, lalong-lalo na sa’yo Mico, kung paano mo kakausapin ‘yong partner mo tungkol d’yan sa nararamdaman mo na nasasakal ka. Kasi ‘di rin naman tama na walang trust,” she said, adding that while it’s just normal for us to miss our loved ones, it’s equally important for us not to hinder their growth and freedom to do what they want. Besides, it is also healthy to have a break from our regular routines and spend time with ourselves.
At the same time, she reminded him as well to not only look at it in a negative way. “Pwede mo rin siyang i-take positively na may isang taong nagmamahal sa’yo nang sobra at talagang lagi lang siyang concerned kahit nasaan ka o kung anong ginagawa mo. Gusto lang niyang maging involved para rin siguro hindi mo siya makalimutan and hindi mo makalimutan na meron kang partner na naghihintay pa rin sa’yo.”
Next was a netizen named “joong_ki_love”, who imparted her problem with her best friend. While their relationship had been smooth-sailing, it was suddenly marred when she spilled one of her darkest secrets in one of their drinking sessions with other friends that really offended her. She’s been wanting to confront her about it, but afraid that doing so will cause a gap and awkwardness between them.
“Mas magandang i-save ang friendship dahil honest kayo sa isa’t isa kaysa may tinatago kayo. Kasi kumbaga, nagiging unfair ka sa kanya kasi may bubog ka na na tinatago na ‘di siya aware doon… na may posibilidad na maulit ‘yong nagawa niya dahil ang akala niya, wala kang pakialam. Pero kapag sinabi mo na nasaktan ka, na-offend ka at hindi mo ita-take ‘yon ng gano’n-gano’n na lang, I’m sure tataas pa lalo ‘yong respeto sa’yo ng kaibigan mo dahil hindi mo hinahayaang masira ang friendship n’yo dahil lang sa isang pagkakamali,” Angelica advised.
Then she added, “Walang tao na nagsasabi sa akin na may na-offend na pala tayong tao. And I’m sure, mas masasaktan siya kapag nalaman niya pa sa ibang tao na may kinikimkim ka na pala na pagtatampo sa kaibigan mo. Kaya naman habang maaga pa, dapat e upuan n’yo na ‘yang problema n’yo na ‘yan bago pa tuluyang masira.”
She assured her that this challenge would only make their friendship stronger than ever.
Angelica then proceeded to the problem of a certain “sugarbaby”, who confessed being in a relationship with a man 30 years older than her and lavishes her with everything that she and her family needs and wants. However, when her “sugar daddy” told her that he’s ready to leave his family for her, she’s not actually keen to it because aside from the fact that she is not yet prepared for that kind of commitment, she also doesn’t have any romantic feelings for him. She’s torn since she cannot afford to lose everything that she gets from him.
The Walang Hanggang Paalam lead actress acknowledged that there are points in our lives wherein we are compelled to go through certain situations because we thought that it was the right thing to do during that time.
“Hindi naman natin masisisi ang fate ng buhay natin kung bakit naging ganito, ‘di ba? At kung bakit kailangan mong maging “sugar baby.” Tama ka, nakukuha mo lahat ng luho, nakukuha mo lahat ng gusto mo, naging spoiled ka na sa kanya, and parang ‘di mo na ma-imagine ang buhay mo na ‘di nakukuha ang mga ganong klaseng bagay, especially nagpapaaral ka ng mga kapatid mo at meron ka ring sariling mga pangangailangan. Pero kasi, sigurado ka ba na d’yan ka magiging masaya and ‘yan na ‘yong fate ng buhay mo?” she stated.
Then she went on to remind her that, yes, there are material things that indeed make us happy, but it’s actually the things that can’t be seen yet only felt that would bring us genuine and eternal happiness as we go on with life. The time would surely come that the material things she enjoys at present are going to lose their value and she will realize not actually needing all of those because what she really needs is self-respect, self-love, and the people who will give her unconditional love and support as long as she lives.
“Pakiramdam ko kasi gusto mo nang mag-settle e. Nagse-settle ka sa kung anong binibigay sa’yo ng sugar daddy mo, na hindi mo na nare-realize kung ano ba ‘yong long term na kailangan mo. Siguro kaunting pagpupursigi rin ‘di ba? Kaunti pang ipon. Kailangan mag-ipon ka ng mag-ipon tapos kalasan mo na siguro ang ganyang klaseng buhay kapag may naipundar ka na sa sarili mo. And hindi ko sinasabing kalimutan mo ‘yong nangyari sa buhay mo, ‘yong experience mo na ‘yan kasi bibitbitin mo ‘yan habangbuhay at dapat maging magandang lesson ‘yan para sa’yo,” Angelica said.
She continued, “Hindi ka rin isang materyal na bagay. Hindi porket materialistic ka, nae-enjoy mo ‘yong mga regalo at mga nakukuha mo sa kanya, huwag mong itumbas ang sarili mo sa mga materyal na bagay kasi tao ka e at meron kang mga pangangailangan bukod sa materyal. Isa do’n ‘yong self-respect na sana ‘wag mawawala. Sana mabuo mo ‘yong sarili mo at lalong-lalo na sana mabuo mo ‘yong respeto sa sarili mo at mahalin mo ang sarili mo nang buong-buo nang sa gano’n malaman mo ‘yong worth mo dahil worth it ka sa tunay na pagmamahal at worth it ka rin na makahanap ka ng taong mamahalin mo sa hirap at ginhawa.”
Moving on to the last letter sender, the seasoned actress addressed the problem of “Moolah” regarding her boyfriend who seems to not have any plan of seeking or venturing in greater opportunities and is already contented with his day-to-day job. She’s been wanting to confront him about that, but she’s afraid to offend him and destroy their 10-year relationship.
Angelica encouraged her to do so and to explain to her boyfriend that he needs to already find a better job and work harder in order for them to have a comfortable life in the future.
“I think lahat ng bagay nadadaan naman sa maayos na usapan. May mga tao talagang mas gusto nilang maging chill lang sila sa buhay, relax lang. ‘Okay na ‘to basta kasama ko ‘yong pamilya ko, simpleng buhay’. May mga tao din na iba ang gusto sa buhay. Siguro pagdating sa gano’n, ‘di kayo magka-swak sa pananaw n’yo sa buhay, sa mga trip n’yo sa buhay. And naniniwala naman ako na kung ano ‘yong trip n’yo sa buhay, gawin n’yo lang,” she uttered.
She also reminded Moolah that it’s definitely okay if she wanted him to be career-driven and to have purpose in life, as well as if they would talk about this matter now since they already need to prepare for their future. Besides, love alone cannot feed them and not being able to resolve this issue could put their relationship in danger.
“Maghanap ka rin ng paraan kung paano mo siya mamo-motivate na magkaroon ng progress ‘yong nararamdaman niya towards work. Maghanap din siya ng stable na career para sa kanya and I’m sure magugustuhan naman niya siguro ‘yon kasi concerned ka sa kanya e. At dahil concerned ka sa kanya, involved ka do’n,” she said.
Click on this video to hear Angelica’s witty advices! Show your love and support to her further by watching her latest film “Love Or Money” via KTX, iWantTFC, and Sky Cable PPV, directed by Mae Cruz-Alviar.