Major life and love lessons we learned from iconic onscreen Nanays

They say life does not come with a manual but thankfully we have our mothers, or mother figure to some, willing to help us navigate through the steep learning curves of life. As we continue to face uncertainties in these weary times, here are a few wise words from our favorite onscreen Nanays giving us a little encouragement. 

Sometimes teens just feel the urge to fit in and explore the world, independently they defy parental authority. In times of rebellion and risky behavior, know that the rules are only there to guide and not to limit your freedom. Kadenang Ginto’s Romina Mondragon (Beauty Gonzalez) explained it best when she scolded daughter Cassandra (Francine Diaz) for almost getting into trouble after sneaking out and engaging in a drinking session with friends. “Ngayon alam mo na kung bakit kita pinagbabawalan. Hindi dahil sa wala kaming tiwala sa’yo pero dahil sa kung anong pwedeng mangyari sa’yo kapag hindi ka namin nababantayan.” 

Lola Flora (Susan Roces) of FPJ’s Ang Probinsyano expounds on the dangers of wanting to mature too fast. While there’s no harm in dreaming about the future, growing up takes time. “Bakit ka ba nagmamadali na lumaki agad? Hintayin mo ang panahon. Darating ang araw, lalaki ang boses mo, tutubuan ka ng tunay na bigote, tatangkad ka. Huwag mong apurahin,” she advised Onyok (Simon Pineda) when he wore a fake mustache hoping to mimic grown up men.  No need to hurry, kids! 

 The Mabunga kids of Pamilya Ko wouldn’t live fruitful days if it weren’t for their matriarch Nanay Luz (Sylvia Sanchez). The loving mom extends her wisdom to Pia (Alyssa Muhlach), her eldest son’s girlfriend, by sharing pieces of advice on long distance relationships. “Minsan, may mga araw na talagang mahirap. Pero kailangan klaro sa inyong dalawa ni Chico (JM De Guzman) kung bakit kailangan niyong magsakripisyo kasi ‘yan ang magtatawid sa inyong dalawa para maging matatag sa isa’t isa.

But when someone tries to threaten the love (or marriage) you are trying to keep, don’t be afraid to give a good fight. Find the much-needed strength and support from your own mother who’s ‘been there and done that,’ like what Babygirl Dela Rosa (Carmi Martin) bestowed her underdog daughter Charmaine (Cristine Reyes) in “No Other Woman.” “Ang mundo ay isang malaking Quiapo, maraming snatcher! Maagawan ka! Lumaban ka! Panahon na para i-pack up mo na ‘yang Lucy Torres mo. Ilabas mo na diyan si Gretchen Barretto. Anak, ako na ang bahala sa red stilettos mo!”  

And when you find your heart repeatedly torn apart, let Mama’s love do the mending. She can provide just the right dosage of comfort and reality and the courage to help you breathe again. “Lahat naman tayo may unli failures, unli mistakes, unli heartbreaks. Pero meron din tayong unli chances and unli choices kung paano magiging masaya,” said Dolly (Ara Mina) to daughter Cali (Liza Soberano) in “My Ex and Whys.”  

The pain can be relentless but ”Unofficially Yours”’s Mommy Helen (Tetchie Agbayani) reminds daughter Ces (Angel Locsin) that every heartbreak will soon serve its purpose. “Naniniwala ako na may nakalaan na isang taong magmamahal sa atin ng totoo at ‘pag nakilala mo ‘yung tao na ‘yun, bigla mong maiisip na ‘Kaya pala kami nag-split ng ex ko kasi may nakalaan pang tao na magmamahala nang tunay sa akin.’ ‘Yung love na deserve mo.” There’s magic in how each failed relationships slowly lead us to the right one, as our mothers say. 

To moms-to-be who are scared to embark on a new challenging journey, just look at how your own mothers managed to survive the hurdles, with so much grace. Listen up as Loi (Sandy Andolong) soothes Julie (Toni Gonzaga)’s fears in Home Sweetie Home. “Kung ako tatanungin mo, kung uulitin ko ‘yung pagbubuntis ko sa inyong tatlo, oo naman uulitin ko! Kasi mas matimbang ‘yung saya na binigay niyo sa akin kaysa doon sa sakit na naramdaman ko noon.” Just like in any situation in life, the pain is worth it! 

When time comes that you become a parent yourself, let Nanay’s lessons on sacrifice be your anchor. After all, no one else in this world can teach the real essence of love than our own mothers. In a scene from “Sakal Sakali Saklolo,” the feisty Nanay Belita (Gina Pareno) reminds Angie (Judy Ann Santos-Agoncillo) of the true meaning of motherhood. “Dapat magsasakripisyo ka kahit na konti, dahil ‘yan ang pagiging isang ina.” 

Mothers will forever remain our safe place and the voice of reason in our lives.  What’s the greatest advice and lesson you learned from your mom?