In choosing a partner, we often list specific good qualities that we are looking for to make the relationship work. In the dating world, these are referred to as dealmakers. But we also have our dealbreakers or qualities that will ‘disqualify’ someone as a potential lover and make us want to cut the connection right away.
Here are common relationship dealbreakers as discussed by our favorite stars.
Number one on the list is cheating. Dirty Linen star Francine Diaz prays that God may save her heart from players, but should it happen, she’s not one to tolerate such acts.
“’Pag talagang nangyari ‘yun, sige mag-explain ka. Pero after that, goodbye… ‘Yun ang talagang huwag na huwag ninyong gagawin. Kung ayaw n’yo na sa partner n’yo, just tell them. No need na mag-cheat pa. Kung ayaw n’yo or pagod na, sabihin n’yo na lang,” preached the 19-year-old actress, and her on-screen partner Seth Fedelin agreed.
The same goes for Jane de Leon, who has been cheated on “many, many times” before. For Jennica Garcia, cheating not only breaks a person’s heart but destroys mental health as well, “Hindi ko talaga siya kaya. Madali sa akin magpatawad. Kayang-kaya ko ibigay ‘yun pero hindi kasi kaya ng mental health ko to continue on without having that in my mind.” Singer Roselle Nava also condemns acts of infidelity. These women are faithful when in a relationship, so it’s just right that they receive the same amount of loyalty from their partners.
Tirso Cruz III, married for over 40 years, imparted that unfaithfulness is the biggest desecrator of any relationship, and that trust is hard to restore once threatened, “When you become unfaithful, that destroys a lot of things. It’s like a piece of jar na nalaglag, nabasag, you could still put it together pero makikita mo na ‘yung mga crack.”
Jona underscored that hurting a person physically and getting caught lying are also major red flags,” Kasi for sure, he will do it again and again.”
Gretchen Fullido would leave a relationship when she starts to feel neglected or when there’s no more effort from a guy. “For me, it has to be hard work. Dapat pareho kayong nag-gi-give and take and showing that you love each other. So, ‘pag nafe-feel ko na parang nagiging complacent na ‘yung partner ko o kaya naman, hindi naman kasi puro kilig lang, pero kung nafe-feel mo na medyo toxic na ‘yung relationship, hindi ka na nag-go-grow, hindi na siya naghe-help para ma-inspire ka to grow as an individual, then for me, parang it’s time to let go.” It’s okay to walk away from a relationship that no longer serves you. As Gretchen puts it, “If it didn’t work, maybe it’s not meant to be.”
For FPJ’s Batang Quiapo star Lovi Poe, the worst thing a person can do is hold their partner back and pull them down instead of helping them succeed – a deal breaker indeed.
Robi Domingo had a similar answer, saying it’d be time to weigh the relationship when his partner asks him to choose between her and his work.
When choosing a partner, you must examine all aspects of the person including their values. Differences in beliefs would make Marco Gumabao call it quits as it might affect his future family, “Siyempre, you would also want someone to have the same beliefs as you para if ever man na magkakaanak kayo together, hindi dalawang things ang tinuturo n’yo sa anak niyo kundi isa lang.”
An oft-quoted adage says that you should leave the table when respect is no longer served. Bobot Mortiz considers this his guiding philosophy in love. In his married life, he has the freedom to do what he wants as long as his wife doesn’t feel disrespected.
Respect must also extend to his family and friends, if not, then, Jed Madela would have to end things. “If the person loves me, kailangan mahalin at respetuhin niya rin ‘yung pamilya ko.
Anthony Jennings would break up with a girl if she starts to keep a record of all good things she did for him and bring that up all the time, “’Yung binibilang kung ano ‘yung binibigay. Para sa akin, kung mahal mo ‘yung isang tao, hindi mo naman bibilangin ‘yung ganu’ng bagay lalo na kung ikaw naman talaga ‘yung nagkusang-loob na ibigay ‘yun.”
For Alexa Ilacad, if a guy doesn’t like animals means they won’t click. For KD Estrada, hurting someone physically is a major red flag.
When asked their thoughts about this topic, APO Hiking Society’s Jim Paredes and Buboy Garovillo gave these insightful words: “Everything starts with romantic love but the death of romantic love is the start of true love. ‘Pag hindi ka umabot doon sa true love, wala na, fling lang ‘yun.”